6.20.2012

the guy who "gets what he wants"



there's always some element of a challenge for some men (who aren't LDS) to date a woman who abstains from sex.
they either think abstinence will be like a detox for them -a cleanse- a healthy challenge. that's a noble idea and some of them find out in 6 weeks that they're either enriched by the relationship and want to keep chugging, or find that it isn't for them and we part ways...

or..

they think i'm conquest to be had.
he may think HE's the guy to change my mind-as if i only abstain because i haven't found someone who was man enough yet....

that guy is the kind of person who drops this sentence:


"i always get what i want" 

i've heard that more than once...

as it turns out, i am reduced to a "what."
not a person.
an object to be had or seized.

well, homeboy.
i ALSO get "what" i want (which is usually in the form of food...) and i also choose "who" i want.

and, to nod to my broadway debut,

you're [not] the one that i want.

13 comments:

Melissa Musso said...

This is awesome. Rock on girlfriend.

Student Nurse May said...
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Thais said...

Ha! I can totally see that happening. Some men really are cocky arrogant fools.

BTW... we moved to NYC a little over a month ago. I'm going to NYU for grad school and I'm really hoping that during our time here I get to see you on a Broadway show. Been following you since BBB, cried when Wonderland closed early, and off to Vegas you went. So crossing my fingers for a Broadway show for you soon... as lead! I just love ya.

Quelly said...

Well said!

Maren said...

Well, now, if that line didn't get my gag reflex working this morning... I'm sorry you've had to deal with more than one of those winners.

tara said...

Can we say narcissists? (them of course!!) Men are strange creatures indeed.

Connie said...

I have to tell you, I think that it is beyond admirable, and incredibly inspiring, that you are willing to be open and honest about your choice not to have sex outside of marriage.

Our world seems to scoff at decision like that - making it it seem silly - even making it seem unnatural when people make that choice. I can't count how many times I have heard "you can't buy the car without looking under the hood" - and they are SERIOUS!

Seriously, you are an example of what a fulfilling life you can have, even making that choice AND that the person you are with, if they really care, will respect you for it!

Thanks for being a great example! We need more people like you who are willing to stand up and say - THIS IS WHAT I BELIEVE AND I WON'T BE ASHAMED!

Grace said...

You are awesome! Men like that need to grow up. No matter what they are referring to within the relationship statements like that are childish.

The Belshes said...

Amen Sister!!!!

Brooke Shoko said...

this = too great.

Bonnie said...

The guy who "gets what he wants" never keeps it!!

Jesse&Amber said...

This is so sadly true. I had a guy in high school tell people he "went all the way with the Mormon"....after he was strongly denied by me. Just because his social status was that important (he was AWESOME due to his fathers wealth and his football skills). So lame.

Elisa said...

You go girl! I abstain as well, and will continue to do so until I marry. If a man can't deal with that, he doesn't deserve us!