Monday, February 4, 2013

the post i never wanted to write.



HD and i are no longer together.
it happened a little while ago.
normally, it feels good to write about my feelings... to process... to make sense...
but in this case, i'm not interested in doing that.
as this complicated relationship progressed and meant more to me, i had a greater desire to keep it private.
i wanted to hide it and keep it for myself like a child with stolen candy.
i still do.
love, disappointment, hope, and hurt in the most intimate part of your heart is the kind you hold close.

this talk about prayer has been really helpful to me.

it's supposed to hurt-
that's how you know it meant something.
{ peter and the starcatcher }

17 comments:

Emily said...

So sorry. :(

Vanitha Sivapragasam said...

Sorry on what happened!
Stay strong

Anna said...

Booooo. So sorry. Love these quotes and talk. You continue to be an inspiration along with entertaining us. Thank you for sharing bits of your interesting life with us. Xoxo

doraemma said...

Boys are stupid. Girl friends are forever.

Lauren VanDerwerken said...

Hugs from NJ

Lindsay Frohm said...

His loss! You are amazing! I adore the privacy and respect you hold each relationship with, when you're in it. That is an inspiration to me.
And like the bracelet Lindsey (Subsy) got you with your favorite quote, what is meant for you will not pass you by (para obviously).
Hugs from Dallas!

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Emily Foley said...

I'm so sorry.

Robby Spratt said...

Sorry about your heartache. That sort of thing is never easy. I'm glad you posted a link to that talk. It has been one of my favorites for quite a while.

Connie said...

Natalie, I have read your blog for many years, and as strange as it sounds, I am so rooting for you to find your match! It cannot be easy to have semi public relationships, and I applaud you for the privacy you have tried to keep in each one. Your day in this area is coming! Until then, know you have a blog family that is absolutely pulling for you - even though we might not even know you!!!

Kika + Olivia said...

I'm so sorry :( I honestly admire you SO MUCH for your strength and openness to love. I have been divorced for 2 years and I still can't put myself out there... it hurts so much. You are an inspiration and "what is for ye will not pass ye by"!
Kika*

Andrea and Kara said...

I am just so sorry. Do you want me to kick him in the shins when I see him at dance class this week? Which. . .yeah, fully aware that makes me sound like the proverbial crazy blog stalker, but I only know who your HD was because you guys came to my daughter's dance class before Christmas, and the kids are in the same class this semester. . .I had to fight every instinct to fan-girl you and tell you I've read your blog for yeeeears and I looooove you (ha), but I really didn't want to bother you in that situation. Anyway. Ever since then I've been crossing my fingers for you that it would work out, he seems like a wonderful person (in a hard situation. . .my husband actually went to high school with him, so I knew beforehand what his situation was, which. . .again, man, so sorry), and I was so sad when it looked like things weren't going well. Obviously I have no idea what went wrong or who made what kind of decision, but it's clear that you're hurting so I'm just sad with you. PS, I'm fully on board with you not publishing this comment if it gives too much information--it's definitely not my intent to out anybody. Just want to let you know I'm feeling for you.

SelahMel said...

So sorry.... You have such a great life attitude, and sure seem to enjoy your days to the fullest. NOT fair that the right fella for you has not shown his face! Have been your Blog-land fan for years, and keep hoping for the right Mr. Right!

Kate said...

Sorry for your hurt. Thinking of you and wishing all the best things.

Courtney said...

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'm going through a break up, too, and have been thinking as I peruse my Google Reader, "Isn't anyone in pain like I am?" I know this post was difficult for you to write, but please know that it helped me know that someone else is experiencing what I am. I've been searching conference talks out, too, to better understand things and will add yours to my list. We're making it!

The Shabby Princess said...

So sorry to hear this. I very much understand what you mean about wanting to hide it like a child with stolen candy, that's how I felt about my relationship. I'm 7 months out and have only really spoken about it to a few close friends.

I wish you courage and a sense of humor--because, I know that's what i need :) hugs.

emily said...

natalie, last year at this time you were a HUGE inspiration and help to me while i was going through this same thing. (we emailed back and forth a few times.) so thank you for that. while i'm praying for my guy to come along, i'll pray for yours too. keep your chin up and keep on living life to the fullest. :)